Your Ultimate Guide on How to Write a Thank You Note

Need to write a thank you note, but have no clue what you’re doing? No worries, we’ve got you covered with the most epic guide to how to write a thank you note you’ve ever seen. First off, let’s start with the basic anatomy of a thank you note.

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How well do you know this person? Is it someone you’ve known for many years like your college roommate? You’ll probably want to address them by the first name. For people you’re not quite as familiar with, stick to Mr. and Mrs. Last name.

  • Dear Aunt Jody & Uncle Max,
  • Johnny!
  • Dear Mr. and Mrs. Jones,
  • Dear Ms. Donnett,

Express your thanks

Go straight for the gratitude, no need to hold off. The whole point of this card is to let them know that you appreciate their gesture. Remember to briefly mention what you’re thankful for.

  • Your birthday card made my day, thank you so much!
  • Your birthday gift was perfect, thanks for thinking of me.
  • Thanks so much for your generous wedding gift.
  • Thank you for the opportunity to interview for the senior designer position.

Specific details

Let them know what you’re thankful for! Remember to keep your details down to Earth, no need to exaggerate. If it’s not the greatest pair of sunglasses you ever did see… don’t say so.

  • I’m so stoked to use the birthday money on my trip to California next week!
  • I wore your graphic tee today and got a bunch of compliments!
  • We’ve been smoothie-making machines for the past month; we are feeling great.
  • It was really exciting getting to know your organization and learning about the senior designer role.

Look ahead

Let them know you’re excited to see them soon by providing a few specifics.

  • I can’t wait to have lunch with you guys next month.
  • I’ll be visiting your neck of the woods in a couple months, can’t wait to come and see you!
  • We’d love to have you over for dinner sometime soon!
  • I am sincerely interested in the position and am looking forward to hearing from you soon.

Revisit the thanks

Bring the attention back to where you started, with gratitude. Be sure to let them know what their gift meant to you. It’s ok to spruce it up a bit, but try to stay away from over-the-top language.

  • I can’t believe you remembered my birthday, thanks again!
  • Thanks again for thinking of me, it means so much.
  • We are so grateful for your generosity, thank you for thinking of us.
  • I greatly appreciate your consideration.

Sign off

Make sure to end on a pleasant and friendly tone. Keep in mind what type of relationship you have with the recipient(s) and sign off accordingly (professionally or casually).

  • Warmly,
  • Your Bud,
  • With love,
  • Best,

[Also see: 55 Ways to Sign Off a Greeting Card]


More samples on how to write a thank you note

Thank you note for bridal party


How can I ever thank you for all that you’ve done for our wedding?! You really took the maid of honor role seriously. I’m so glad you were there with me the through the whole planning process, your crazy awesome coordination skills were greatly appreciated! I can’t wait to return the favor next year (eeek). Let’s get the boys together soon.

Love you,

Jessica xo

Wedding thank you for guests who didn’t attend

Dear Uncle Marshall & Aunt Lilly,

The lovely platter you sent was so incredibly thoughtful, thank you! We actually just hosted our first dinner party last week and I was so excited that I got to use it (it was the perfect addition to our dinner table)! We’re sorry you guys couldn’t make it to the wedding, but we know you were celebrating with us in spirit. Can’t wait to see you guys when we come up for a visit.

Sending you our love,

Lyn & Josh

Wedding thank you note for money

Dear Ken & Mary,

We were so pleased that you could make it to our wedding! Your generous gift will be put to good use as we work on remodeling our new house and turning it into our home. We’ll never forget those crazy dance moves of yours, thanks so much for coming to the wedding. We’re excited to have ya’ll over for dinner very soon!                                  

Love you guys,

Joseph & Christine

Wedding thank you note for vendors

Dear Edmund & the Rhodes Team,

Thank you so much for being so attentive on our special day and for helping Tom get over feeling so awkward, he had a blast with the bridal photos. You and your team did an extraordinary job making sure no special moment went un-photographed, we can’t wait to see the photos!

Thanks again,


Baby shower thank you note

Dear Josephine,

I was so delighted to see you at my baby shower! Thank you so much for the beautiful bassinet you got for little Marie, it’s already got a place in the nursery. Next time you’re in town, we’d love to have you over for dinner! Hope to see you soon and thanks again for thinking of us.



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Baby shower thank you note for hostess


Thank you so much for hosting my baby shower last weekend! The shower was lovely; it was so nice to see all of my friends and family. You have no idea how much I appreciate all of your efforts to make the shower so perfect. Let’s get lunch soon (before I’m no longer able to fit in the doorway :).

Forever grateful,


Birthday thank you note for a friend


How in the world do you do this every time? The vintage notebook you got for my birthday was perfect. I was so happy you could make it to my party; I hope you had a great time! Thank you for the incredibly thoughtful gift!



Birthday thank you note for co-workers

You guys!

It was so awesome to walk into work on my birthday and see all those balloons in my office. It totally made my day! Thank you so much for your thoughtful gifts, you all went totally above and beyond. I’m excited for our company dinner next week, get ready for the best margaritas you’ve ever had!

Thank You!


Birthday thank you note for kids

Aunt Jody,

Thanks for coming to my birthday party and for the awesome letter blocks you got me! I love playing with them and mom says I’ll be making real words any day now. I can’t wait to see you when you come visit me next!

Love ya tons,

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Business Thank You Note for Meeting


Thank you for taking the time out to meet with me last week. I really appreciate the opportunity you’ve given my team to present at your next office-wide meeting. I look forward to seeing this new partnership to fruition in the next few months.


Lisa Hillsworth

Graduation thank you note for cash

Dear Grandma & Grandpa,

Thank you so much for coming to my graduation party and your graduation present. I’m so excited to be finished with high school and way more excited to start college next fall! Your generous gift card is going to help me decorate my new dorm room. I’m looking forward to visiting you this summer. I’m so excited to go shopping, thanks again!



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More tips on how to write a thank you note

Thank You Dos

  • Do send a thank you note promptly
  • Do keep it personal
  • Do choose the appropriate stationery for the recipient and situation (pretty pastel bunnies may work for Aunt Judy, but not so good for a hiring manager)
  • Do double-check your spelling
  • Do surprise someone with a thank you note that may not be expecting it (your hairdresser or your favorite bar tender)

Thank You DON’Ts

  • Don’t assume a text is enough (or an in-person thanks)
  • Don’t ramble
  • Don’t go overboard (unless you really think the candle holders are the most beautiful things you’ve laid your eyes on, don’t say so)
  • Don’t send a pre-printed generic messages in lieu of a personal thank you note
  • Don’t use being late as an excuse not to write thank you notes at all, better late than never


More info on Wedding Thank You Notes

Use your wedding guest list to make a list of all the wedding thank you notes you’ll need to write. When a gift comes in just write down what each person gave next to his or her name to easily keep track. It’s also a good idea to note down if anyone went out of their way to help you with the big day that may slip your mind when it comes time to write thank yous. Did your high school best friend step in when the wedding coordinator needed help setting up the reception? You’ll want to mention this in your note.

Splitting the list up between the bride and groom is the best way to get your wedding thank you notes done on time. Each partner can write to the people they’re closest to and don’t forget to include both names in all the notes (either in the body of the message or signoff).

Who to send a wedding thank you note?

  • The folks that gave you an engagement, shower, or wedding gift. Yes, even if you already gave them your heartfelt thank you in person – they should still get a thank you note.
  • They came, they saw, and you got wed. Your friends and family went out of their way to spend your special day with them, don’t forget to thank them.
  • Anyone who hosted a party or shower for you. Hosting is a huge responsibility; consider gifting a little something along with the thank you note.
  • Anyone who helped you through your wedding process. That co-worker who helped you put together the goodie bags for the bridal shower deserves a thank you note.
  • Vendors.
  • Your parents.
  • Bridal Party.  Your maid of honor kept her cool when you were about to loose yours. Thank her for that.

When to send your wedding thank you notes

It’s best to write your wedding thank you notes within 3 months of receiving the gift, but better late than never (When to send out other wedding related mail). Your friends and family spent time and probably money on making sure they give you something you’ll like. It’s only right that you spend a little time thanking them in return. Think about setting a daily goal of 4-5 thank you notes. It’s much easier to write a few notes a day rather than a couple hundred six months after the wedding!

Thank you for the Bridal Party

Ah, the very best friends you and your partner could ever hope for. The Bridal party was there for you from the very beginning (or at least from the point of you asking them to participate). Everything from helping with planning the bachelor weekend getaway to fluffing your wedding dress at the altar; the bridal party has helped make your wedding as special as possible. Make sure to take note of their extra special place in your wedding while writing their thank you note.

Keep it simple, your bridal party is likely the closest group of friends you and your partner have. Using elaborate fancy language that you wouldn’t normally use in your day to day with these people will make the note seem impersonal and insincere. Keep it simple and honest.

Thank you for guests who didn’t attend

Those lovely people in your life who were thoughtful enough to send you a gift, but couldn’t make it to the wedding should also be getting a personal thank you note. Be careful not to make them feel bad about missing your special day while still thanking them. [Thank you so much for the wedding gift, it was so thoughtful! We’re sorry you couldn’t make it, but we know you were there with us in spirit.]


Thank you for Money

Getting cash for your wedding can be super helpful when it comes to funding your dream honeymoon or furnishing your first home. You don’t have to specify the amount of money given in the thank you note, but you should specify what you’ll be using it for.

Thank you to Vendors

Sure, money was exchanged, but if you were lucky enough to have vendors who made your special day extraordinary why not spend a couple minutes expressing your gratitude? You’ll likely make their day too.


More info on Baby Shower and New Born Thank Yous

As adorable and lovable your newborn is you’d most likely appreciate all the help you can get with the new bundle of joy. From diaper cakes to a helping hand, your friends and family have done all they can to make your life as a new mom and dad as smooth of a transition as possible. Even though it may seem like you have zero time on your hands to give a proper thanks, you should try to get a few minutes each day to write out a few. [Plus, with Postable you can type the thank yous online and we’ll mail them for you.]

Who to send a baby thank you to

  • Everyone who gave you a gift. If Aunt Judy decided to send you a hand sewn baby blanket all the way from Florida, but wasn’t able to fly up for the shower you should still write a personal thank you.
  • Everyone who attended your baby shower.
  • The baby shower hostess. Your first shower thank you note should be addressed to the hostess. Hosting a shower is no simple gesture. It requires a great deal of time and effort. It’s not a terrible idea to also send a small gift as an additional appreciation gesture, but a personal thank you note sent in a timely manner is a must.
  • Anyone who took some time to give you a helping hand. Did your neighbor help carry the groceries inside so you could stay off your feet? How about the impromptu girls night your bestie threw for you so you could get some pampering? Be sure to acknowledge these acts of kindness with a thank you.

As with wedding thank you cards, it’s best to try to keep a guest list close by when the gifts are opened so that you can keep track of who gave what. When a gift arrives in the mail, make sure to add to the list as soon as it gets in so that nobody goes un-thanked.

Remember to send your baby shower thank you notes in a timely manner. Don’t wait too long or the new baby will definitely delay the thank yous even longer.


More info on Business Thank You Notes

Sending a thank you note to a new client should be a no-brainer. Not only do you want to impress and delight your customers at the beginning of your interaction, but ending on a high note is equally as important. As with any thank you note, make sure it is sent in a timely manner.

      • For attending an event
      • For a retiring employee
      • For doing business with us
      • For meeting with me/us
      • For lunch
      • For job well done
      • For the presentation
      • For referrals


More info on Graduation thank you note

Graduating is a big milestone in your life that comes with a lot of really awesome presents. Don’t forget to express your gratitude for all the gifts you’ve received with a personal thank you card. It is not ok to say ‘thanks’ in person or via text and call it a day. For those cash gifts you received in your mailbox, be sure to let them know what the money was spent on – to decorate your new dorm room– this let’s the giver know their cash arrived intact.

Who to send graduation thank you notes

  • Anyone who sent you a card/gift.
  • Mom and dad. Surely they helped you get through school in more ways than one.
  • Teachers. Everyone has that one teacher that really made a difference. Graduation is the perfect time to reach back out and let them know!

Other reasons to send a thank you note

  • Your cousin tutored you in Spanish after your last failed exam.
  • After a job interview.
  • Your neighbors helped you carry your groceries.
  • Your bestie brought you hot soup when you were ill.

The list of reasons is endless.

[See: When Should You Send A Thank You Card]


There’s really no such thing as a bad time to write someone a thank you note, so why not send one?! Surely the recipient will greatly appreciate the gesture and everyone wins in the end. The best part?

Postable has an insanely beautiful collection of all types of thank you notes for you to write online and click send. We’ll will print, address and mail the cards out for you. You’re welcome.

Go ahead, start writing your thank you notes — here.