Late Wedding Thank You Notes: Wording Examples & Etiquette

top-view-of-blank-note-envelope-coffee-cup-and-peonies-picture-id692711534You’ve spent the same amount of time thinking about sending out your wedding thank you notes as you have not sending them. And the result? The guilt of having late wedding thank you notes just sitting on your to do list is staring at you. It’s ok, don’t be so hard on yourself! Life gets in the way — we totally get it. Mailing those bad boys out in a timely manner — while important — is tough. The thing is, the folks who spent time, effort and money on gifting you and your new spouse that special wedding gift still deserve a thank you note.

Given the extra time spent indoors these days and the urgent need for us all to save the USPS, there really couldn’t be a better time to finally get this one task off your to do list once and for all! And you know, let your loved ones know you appreciate them.

How long do you have to send thank you cards after a wedding… Is it ever too late?

Many months may have passed since you tied the knot, but the chance to mail out your wedding thank you notes has not.

Better late than never.

Whether it’s been 8 months or a full year, don’t let the build-up of having put off this special task be used as an excuse to never mail out your thank yous.

The key is to just realize what’s done is done and get those bad boys written! Don’t worry if you’re already feeling overwhelmed by reading this because we’ve got a step-by-step process you can easily follow to get this done in no time.


Step-by-step guide to writing your late wedding thank you notes.

Not sure how to get started? We got you.

  1. Make the commitment to just do it!
  2. Choose a card or a set of stationery.
  3. Set aside time in your calendar.
  4. Get to writing!

First step may seem obvious, but just as with any ominous task you need to make the decision to just get this done. Without this crucial step the likelihood that this task will get pushed further and further down your to do list is pretty much guaranteed.

You’ll need a card to write in so be sure to order your stationery asap or use Postable to write all of your thank you notes and we’ll mail them all out for you (yes, using the USPS)!
Pro tip: Postable’s wedding thank you collection is pretty spectacular.

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Setting aside time to actually complete this task is just as important as steps 1 & 2. If you don’t make time for this in your schedule, excuses will inevitably continue to come up.

Get to writing! Ok, this step is rather self explanatory… Not sure what to say? Keep reading — we’ve got wording examples you can use.

What to Say in Late Wedding Thank Notes?

The messaging in regular wedding thank you notes still applies here, you’ll just have to add one extra item: a short apology.

Now, don’t take this opportunity to write a novel about how busy life has gotten being married and all or how sorry you are that the notes are late. Mention it once and move on. Nobody wants to read a long winded apology in their thank you note. Keep your apology short and sweet — just like the rest of the message.

Here’s all the things to include:

  • Salutation
  • The actual ‘thank you’
  • The short ‘sorry’
  • One specific detail about the gift
  • Look ahead
  • Another ‘thank you’
  • Sign off

Here are some sample with all of these items put together into a succinct and lovely messages:

Dear Ken & Mary,

Thank you so much for the blender. We’re sorry it’s taken this long to get this note to you. We’ve been smoothie-making machines for months; feeling great! Would love to have you over for brunch soon. We’re so grateful for your generosity.

With love,
John & Lucy

Dear Monica & Chandler,

A huge –and well overdue– thank you for the couples spa package. Your attention to detail and generosity never fails to amaze. Thank you for remembering our favorite date night activity, we’ve been so looking forward to using the package for our 1st anniversary. We’re so grateful for your friendship and can’t wait to see you both soon!

With love,
Joey & Marge

Dear Chris & Josh,

A belated, but heartfelt thank you for the donation you made in our name to the Save the Children foundation. We were so pleased to receive the notice and could not think of a more perfect way to honor our love. We are constantly amazed at all the amazing work that you do and look forward to working with you both very soon.

Thank you!
Joanna & Billie

Remember — always keep your messages short and sweet, write with sincerity and spell check names.

Want more wording examples? Read through all these wedding thank you note wording examples and just remember to acknowledge (briefly) the lateness.

Postable makes sending wedding thank you notes extra easy!

Postable — hey, that’s us! — can help make this whole process a lot easier. You can write and mail all of your late (or not-so-late) wedding thank you notes without leaving your couch or computer. We’ll print, address and mail your personalized notes for you. AND you can complete the whole task in the fraction of the time.

Your guests will receive beautiful custom wedding thank you notes with a lovely handwritten font (that you chose) and you wouldn’t need to spend a whole weekend writing, addressing and stamping them.

Yes, really.

However you decide to take care of these very important thank yous, you’ll probably want to address the fact that they’re late. But how?