Not sure how to address wedding invitations? Perhaps you’re still stuck on how to address save the dates? Chances are, you’re not the only one. Nothing to stress about. It’s not like you find yourself addressing envelopes on the daily. Getting married typically means you’re going to discover just how much you may not know about snail mail. First thing’s first. Do you have the mailing addresses of everyone on your guest list? If you skipped that first step, you may want to go back. Don’t worry, collecting physical mailing addresses doesn’t have to be a complete nightmare. Postable’s free wedding address book makes collecting addresses a total breeze.Once you have your guests’ wedding addresses in hand and are ready to take the first step to addressing wedding invitations, you’ll need to make a few simple decisions. Main one being, how you’d like your envelopes to be addressed. In other words: the formality level. Are you going for a more traditional approach — keeping the envelopes as formal as it gets– or maybe something more casual? There are a number of little nit picky rules you may want to review. Like what to do if the couple has different last names? Should you list all of the children’s’ names or just put “And Family”? What if they’re a couple, but not married? What if one’s a doctor?! Feeling overwhelmed yet?
Hooray, you’re engaged! There was a ring, maybe some rose petals, possibly a flash mob and most importantly, someone said “Yes!” Engagements are so exciting! When all the electricity has died down a bit and it’s time to start planning your wedding you’ll have so many different avenues to maneuver like who to invite, who not to invite, when to invite them and so on. We’re big believers that planning weddings shouldn’t have to be such a mystical pain in the ass. So we thought we’d give you some insight into the Do’s and Don’ts of sending out your wedding invites and save the dates.
[If you’re feeling a bit lost when it comes to wedding etiquette in general check out this list of articles to help you navigate wedding etiquette.]
If you’re still stuck on the etiquette acceptable for wedding invitations, here is a list of our wedding DOs and DON’Ts for your wedding invitations and save the dates to avoid making any major etiquette mishaps. Continue reading
Yeah, we know. You sent them Save the Dates. You gave them their own little RSVP card and a pre-addressed, pre-stamped return envelope. You let them RSVP online via your wedding website so they wouldn’t even have to get up and find a mailbox.
You made it so easy.
BUT the wedding’s a few weeks away and a handful of your nearest and dearest (and apparently laziest) still haven’t RSVP’d.
WTF do you do?!
How do you (gently) nudge your guests for wedding RSVPs?
How do you make it clear that these aren’t exactly voluntary (you really need to give your caterer the real headcount)? But also, how do you avoid appearing like a crazy control freak?
We got you.
Step 1: Stay calm.
Easier said than done but speed dialing your college roommate and giving her a 20-minute lecture on what Respondez S’il Vous Plait means will help no one.
Step 2: Thank god that you planned your RSVP date wisely.
This step actually comes way before—back when you set your RSVP date a week or two before you need to give your caterer a final headcount.
Step 3: Pick up the phone and have your script in hand.
“Hey ____! Just wanted to make sure that you received our invitation. I need to give the final head count to the caterer by Friday and wanted to know if you’ll be able to make it. We really hope you can. Thanks!” Be upbeat. Be gracious. Put extra emphasis on that “need to give the final head count to the caterer” bit.
Step 4: Be safe, not sorry.
If you’re still listening to silence on the other end, plan for a few gatecrashers and tell your caterer they’re coming. If they still don’t show—hey, looks like someone gets an extra plate of salmon.